Published: 4th September 2012 Penguin Publishing
Genre: BDSM/ Adult/ Memoir
Date Finished: 26th July 2012
In Diary of a Submissive, Sophie Morgan candidly explains what exactly an independent, 21st century woman gets out of relinquishing her power and personal freedom in a submissive relationship with a dominant man for their mutual sexual pleasure.
In the wake of Fifty Shades of Grey, here is a memoir that offers the real story of what is means to be a submissive and follows Sophie’s story as she progresses from her early erotic experiences through to experimenting with her newfound awakened sexuality. From the endorphin rush of her first spanking right through to being collared, she explains in frank and explicit fashion her sexual explorations. But it isn’t until she meets James, a real life ‘Christian Grey,’ that her boundaries and sexual fetishism are really pushed. As her relationship with James travels into darker and darker places, the question becomes: Where will it end? Can Sophie reconcile her sexuality with the rest of her life, and is it possible for the perfect man to be perfectly cruel?
Daring, controversial, and sensual, Diary of a Submissive is filled with a captivating warmth and astounding honesty such that no one— man or woman—will be able to put Sophie's story down.
Oh Sophie Morgan, whatever am I going to say about this book? Firstly I would like to thank Penguin Publishing Australia for supplying me a copy of Diary of a Submissive, for without it I would have probably wasted a fair bit of money. Secondly- I really need to stop reading books if they have any reference to fifty Shades of Grey, because frankly from what I’ve heard about the BDSM element on Fifty Shades and from reading this book they are both pretty similar in context and both seem to have this unfortunate affect over me.
I am tempted, so kill me by books about BDSM, especially if they are memoirs. So when I found out about Diary of a Submissive I had to jump on it as soon as I could. Once I’d got my copy it was just a matter of sitting down and giving it a go. I mean who wouldn’t be intrigued by a true account of a submissive and her sexual escapades through the journey of finding herself while also and discovering so many deliciously deviant things in the process?I sure know I was, And I’ll admit, at various points in the book this is exactly what I got and I took so much from it in those fleeting moments of connection, and realisation. But the majority of the book was a disappointment.
It was all exciting at first, like a new relationship- learning about the ins and outs of a Dominant and submissive relationship. Not that I am new to the concept [personally I know the lifestyle] but after a while, after the same situations were played out over and over again, recycled with different partners with a few added extra punishments I was about ready to throw my kindle against the chest of draws. Don’t get me wrong, I did gain something from reading this book, and no it definitely was not any tips on how to make my sex life kinky, but it was so hard to absorb the experiences Sophie went through without feeling emotionally drained and quite frankly bored shitless. There is only so many ways to spank a person and I feel like 300 pages is way beyond the required explore that.
I didn’t care at all about her as a person as much as I wanted to. The men in her life did nothing but infuriate me and I know, yes I know that these are personal experiences and it’s hard to embellish upon something that didn’t happen but damn I needed something more. I wanted to be shocked, and I wanted to crave the experiences she had. I wanted to learn and explore what it meant to me as a reader, as a person and as a member of the community learning about my own place as a submissive in my own relationship and maybe that was my problem. But I doubt it.
People need to stop coming out with their own adaptations of popular books. I appreciate and respect the author as a person, as a woman and as a writer who is courageous enough to share her story with the world. It takes a lot of strength and confidence to do so and I have no doubt in my mind that there will be an audience for it. But you haven’t sold me Sophie. There was something about it I just couldn’t buy and it read more like a blog to me than anything else. In saying that, if you’re on the bandwagon for all these ‘soft erotic’ books at the moment then by all means pick this one up and let me know what you think of it. For now I can safely say that had this book ben about fifty pages I might have enjoyed it more. But I think I endured enough time wasting to feel that this book just wasn’t for me, and that is okay.
I am giving this book:
Two Sad Spanks